Saturday, May 17, 2008
Parenting Cont'd.
I haven't read many parenting books, but I think I'm going to read some this summer. One that I read a few years ago, called How Children Raise Parents by Dan Allender teaches us how to listen to what our kids are really saying. He says the 2 main things all kids are asking underneath it all are 1. Do you love me? and 2. Can I have my own way? This second question is what Sadie is asking right now. She's testing us and pushing limits like she never has before. I've had the hardest couple of weeks ever as a parent dealing with her and taking care of a baby with little sleep. We have had to discipline her so many times lately, it breaks my heart to watch what she is going through trying to figure out her little life. I decided when Camryn was little that I didn't want to spank my kids. And I've never had to with her, but Sadie is a different kid. Time outs haven't worked as well with her lately. She is being defiant and mean to all of us at times. I'm hoping that it's a season that is going to pass really soon, as she better adjusts to having a brother who takes attention from me and as she moves out of her "twos" and into being a 3 year old. She has a fun, crazy personality and i can appreciate her rebelliousness in some ways. I like how she stands up for herself and knows what she wants. But she has to learn how to obey us right now. So, I think I'll order some books today and start reading. Any suggestions? And I'll keep writing about what i'm learning.....
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Okay - I can totally relate, Emme! We should talk sometime. I know that Rachel and Sadie are not exactly a like but they seem to respond in some similar ways. Rachel is very spunky, outgoing, strong-willed likes to lead others (even tries to tell our teenage neighbors what to do :) We love her to pieces and know that God made her just this way but the spunky, strong-willed ones sure are hard to parent. We have by no means got it figured out but I do have a few thoughts on books. One book is"Don't make me Count to Three" by Gladys Hunt - she talks about using scripture in correction so that God's word is what is changing their hearts to want to obey. And I also bought "The Strong-willed Child" by Dr. Dobson but haven't gotten very far yet. maybe we talk soon -I check on you guys through your blog. i'll be praying.
oops - the author of the book "don't make me count to three" is Ginger Plowman - not Gladys Hunt
Emme the books i have read latley have more to do with raising a teen and i feel like i'm not getting enough info. regarding how to relate to jacob in talking with a friend she suggested i visit the www.raisingsmallsouls.com website this site has great everyday advice that i can read in about 10 minutes. The topic i read about yesterday was on Giving your Child Effective Attention By: Kathy Kelley a Early Childhood Development Instuctor It was not really anything that I haven't heard before it was just a reminder on how important it is to give STRONG focused attention when somehing has happened that you like and want to see again Then she ecouraged descriptive feed back (which i have been bad to not do) I tried it last night with Jacob after his pre-school graduation I told him of all the things naming each song and each thing he did that i liked ( I really didn't think it would work on him b/c his attention span is like 2 sec. long)but he sat and listened to everything i had to say then sang all the songs i liked again. Today we will see how it goes.... hey i hope the website is helpful jacob is asking almost daily about when we are going to see those friends of mine he is really looking forward to it hope you have a good day.
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